Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic used to gain power over someone. It’s a way for someone to deflect responsibility while tearing someone else down. It is mental abuse, period.
Signs that you are a victim of gaslighting:
- You question if you are too sensitive
- You apologize regularly
- You make excuses for your partner’s behavior
- Making simple decisions on your own is difficult
- You question your own worth
- You blame yourself for your unhappiness
- You often feel confused or like you are crazy
All of these symptoms are also present in chronic depression, anxiety disorders as well as low self-esteem. With gaslighting though, there is an individual present driving these feelings. They want to make you second guess yourself.
In order to get control back over your life, you have to first recognize the issue at hand. Once you do, keep a journal of events for your own peace of mind, allow yourself to feel everything that you are unapologetically, get into counseling and distance yourself from the abuser.
Understand this, if someone cannot accept any responsibility for any wrongdoing, they likely never will. You cannot allow this to be your problem. You need to escape the situation and love yourself through the healing process. Take back control of your life.