Gaslighting is a manipulation tactic used to gain power over someone. It’s a way for someone to deflect responsibility while tearing someone else down. It is mental abuse, period.

Signs that you are a victim of gaslighting:

  • You question if you are too sensitive
  • You apologize regularly
  • You make excuses for your partner’s behavior
  • Making simple decisions on your own is difficult
  • You question your own worth
  • You blame yourself for your unhappiness
  • You often feel confused or like you are crazy

All of these symptoms are also present in chronic depression, anxiety disorders as well as low self-esteem. With gaslighting though, there is an individual present driving these feelings. They want to make you second guess yourself.

In order to get control back over your life, you have to first recognize the issue at hand. Once you do, keep a journal of events for your own peace of mind, allow yourself to feel everything that you are unapologetically, get into counseling and distance yourself from the abuser.

Understand this, if someone cannot accept any responsibility for any wrongdoing, they likely never will. You cannot allow this to be your problem. You need to escape the situation and love yourself through the healing process. Take back control of your life.

11 thoughts on “Gaslighting”

  1. I am and have been trying to raise awareness on gaslighting for so long; I published what I believe is the first memoir on narcissistic Abuse back in 2015, although it has been revised, and it has not been easy, since my story is far from over. It is draining, and basically had to redo my whole blog again since my “narcissistic psychopath,” is prone to cyber stalking and sabotaging anything that threaten to reveals what lies beneath the mask. But, it’s nice to know I am not the only one, and that there are others brave enough to share their story. There need to be more of us!

    1. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s not supposed to be like that. It always makes me think of something my Mom always told me growing up, if you judge others by your heart, you’re going to get hurt. The truth is there are a lot of ugly people in this world. Ones that to will do whatever to get what they want. Even if it means destroying someone. Hang in there!! Prayers to you!

      1. Thank you Laura, that means a lot. I believe that was always my problem, I am all heart and said to be idealistic. However, while life is a learning process, and after going through something like that you are able to see the signs quicker. If I wasn’t sensitive- I wouldn’t be a good counselor or as perceptive, and to this day, I am surprised I am not jaded, but I rather be idealistic and see the best in people than the former. But your mom is right, human beings were/are capable of terrible things. I suppose it’s a matter of finding balance between knowing how to protect yourself, and be smart, and never losing sight as to who you are. Thank you again for your kind words.

  2. While usually recognized within personal relationships, it’s amazing how common attempts to gaslight really are. Even aimed at completely strangers in social media comments. Of course, when that is pointed out to the person doing it, they just use more gaslighting techniques to “defend” themselves!

%d bloggers like this: