Obsessive Love Disorder
Stalking, controlling, manipulating, instilling fear, physical abuse, sexual abuse. Does this sound like love? No! It sounds like obsession.
Love can die and feelings spiral out of control. One might transform from a caring individual into an obsessive and abusive individual. One that seeks to gain control over the one that was once their love but has since become their object of obsession. Love gone bad, if you will.
This does not mean it is justifiable to act in such a manner. It is a good indicator of something lacking in said individual. To seek out to injure someone you once loved suggests deep-seated issues to begin with.
People who develop this tend to have:
Borderline personality disorder
If you are a victim of this, you need to get away from said individual. They need help. You cannot help them. They have to help themselves.
What about those individuals that become obsessed with someone they do not really know? We hear about it all the time in the celebrity world. Stalkers living under the delusion that they have a love affair with said celebrity. Erotomania!
These individuals are quite obviously mentally disturbed. Many live to follow the object of their obsession. They stalk, torment and some have even murdered the individual they are obsessed with.
Over 85% of stalking victims are stalked by someone they know. An average of 7.5 million people are stalked yearly. The punishment for stalking has gotten harsher over the years. With it being at epidemic proportions, it needed to!
I think we still have a long way to go however. I just read an article about a young woman that sought help from her local law enforcement on several occasions. Law enforcement actually fined her for filing false claims. She was then murdered by her stalker. She had nobody there to prevent it. Nobody there to help her. Yes, I believe that our law enforcement officials need training in how to better handle such cases. So that another victim does not lose their life.
Everyday ordinary people do not have body guards. They only have their local authorities to help keep them safe. The sad truth is many officers fail to take repeated offenses seriously or fail to categorize them as stalking. There seems to be a lot of “victim blaming” by authorities. The “what did you do to cause this” type attitude.
I wonder if they would feel differently about this if it was their mother, their daughter, their sister being stalked?