I felt insignificant in my marriage. My ex used the words, I, me and my with everything. Not us. Not we. Not ours. It did not matter that I was right there with him creating a home. Every step of the way. He took all the credit. It hurt me beyond the telling of it. But I tried. It always fell on deaf ears.
After I left my marriage, I had some people point out that I used the word sorry all the time. All the time. I would reply with, “I’m sorry.” It took me a while to break that habit.
I started to realize just how much damage my marriage had on my self-worth. I was lost. But not completely. The old me was still there. Screaming! I realized this after I was out on my own. That the strong woman was always there, she was just dormant.
Yes, I was saying sorry a lot and for things I did not need to be sorry for. There it is! Why do we apologize for keeping it real? Why do we apologize for being ourselves? Why do we apologize for standing up for ourselves? Why?
No more! Those days are done. I will not apologize for standing up! I will not apologize for having my own opinion. I will not apologize for keeping it real. I’ve found out just what I’m made of. There’s not one person on this planet that can make you feel worthless, unless you let them. Never apologize for having a backbone.
The use of I or we, or “my car”, “my house” is more than just semantics!
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It sure is!!
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Your right! Nobody can make you feel worthless unless you allow it! I am glad you keep it real! I try to do the same!
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💕🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 It is empowering to take away other’s power over you. Great feeling.
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It is, I agree ☺️
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I like how you describe the old you was dormant. Perfect analogy. That is how I felt with my ex-fiance’.
I rarely had a say in anything. And, the same scenario… “I’m sorry, for this , that, and the other all of the time.”
That was so unlike me to be this way.
I’m so very happy that yuor are no longer dormant! I appreciate this Laura so much!!!! 🤗
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I needed to read this! I say sorry WAY too often, & I have no idea why.
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I think that’s the key. Why do we apologize unnecessarily. Once I figured it out, it became easy to break the habit.
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You’re right. Good for you for breaking the habit. I am trying…
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You will!!! 🙌🏻💕
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Right on!
In a minor/petty way, there’s a man on my office floor who keeps opening his door and coming around corners fast. We’ve almost bumped into each other several times. He’s a big younger guy. I always say sorry or excuse me as a reflex and he says… NOTHING! It bugs me. I’m trying to train myself to say nothing too. 🔥🔥🔥
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It’s hard to not apologize. Say excuse you next time! 😂
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😂😂❤️
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Such an inspiring morning message:) So proud of you Laura! Happy Wednesday 🙂
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Thank you!!
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My pleasure 😁
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